Fat Girl,

Pro-Choice and Proud

June 23, 2017 0 Comments

Nor­mal­ize and sup­port a person’s right to choose.

Every­one deserves basic repro­duc­tive health, and for peo­ple with uterus­es, that health is impos­si­ble with­out the right to choose.

Don’t just sup­port places like Planned Par­ent­hood Action (but please do!! espe­cial­ly your local clin­ics!!). Sup­port the peo­ple in your life who need that sup­port.

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The Process of Being.

April 16, 2017 0 Comments

This Sat­ur­day, April 22, I will turn 30 years old. (Want to help me cel­e­brate?)

Frankly, this ter­ri­fies me.

All my life, I nev­er envi­sioned myself liv­ing past the age of 28. I fig­ured that either the rap­ture would have occurred, or I would have killed myself. So you’d think 29 would have been my all-out pan­ic year, but I spent 29 deal­ing with a lot of oth­er things.

Now, with 30 at my doorstep, I’m caught in its head­lights, await­ing its impact with an ever-increas­ing sense of dread.

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Haikus with Dani: Coercion

March 17, 2017 0 Comments

Con­tent note: rape

St. Patrick’s Day will nev­er be the same for me. This whole week has been noth­ing but hell­ish mem­o­ry almost every wak­ing moment. I’m so grate­ful for the friends and fam­i­ly who have spent time with me to make sure I’m not alone and that I’m safe.

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Haikus With Dani: overwhelmed; overwhelming.

February 28, 2017 0 Comments

Brought to you by intense intro­spec­tion dur­ing a sea­son of trau­mat­ic anniver­saries. I’ve been think­ing a lot about how to describe my men­tal health strug­gles, and I think I touched on a cou­ple of things pret­ty well here.

i do not mean to
over­whelm you. i sim­ply
over­whelm myself.

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Haikus with Dani: In Which There Is No Room.

January 26, 2017 0 Comments

It’s been a full year since I broke up with my spouse. A very hard year, if you recall. I’ve spent a lot of time try­ing to process things as best as I can, and that often looks like dis­till­ing emo­tions into haikus. Some­thing about the struc­ture and lim­i­ta­tion seems to lend itself well to express­ing myself in suc­cinct and pow­er­ful ways (much like how Twitter’s char­ac­ter lim­it can help focus one’s thoughts).

I don’t real­ly want to offer com­men­tary on this. There is so much I am still pro­cess­ing. But it feels impor­tant to share it, and to share it now. And one of my goals is to lis­ten to my intu­ition far more than I’ve been able to in the past.

One thing I will say is this: it’s a ter­ri­fy­ing time in our coun­try right now. To be a woman, not white, not straight, not healthy in body and mind. Most of my friend group — myself includ­ed — are fight­ing the creep­ing despair as we watch this new admin­is­tra­tion work so hard to make our lives at best uncom­fort­able and at worst nonex­is­tent. It’s easy to not take care of your­self in an effort to remain informed, to know what fresh hell awaits every morn­ing.

But the lit­tle things mat­ter. Lit­tle things like remem­ber­ing to eat. Check­ing in with friends. Ask­ing peo­ple to check in on you. Kiss­ing your loved ones. Snug­gling your pets. Or even dar­ing to sim­ply take up space.

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As dumpster fires go.

December 31, 2016 0 Comments
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Cognitive distortion and taking up space.

November 3, 2016 2 Comments
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Intersectionality or Bullshit: When White Feminists Profit From Women of Color

August 12, 2016 0 Comments
A mix of roman caps, italic, and uncial calligraphy of Flavia Dzodan's quote, "My feminism will be intersectional or it will be bullshit."

I don’t deserve cook­ies or kudos for how I’ve han­dled inter­est in this design, for being pri­mar­i­ly con­cerned with Flavia’s own­er­ship of her words and desir­ing that she receive com­pen­sa­tion for her work rather than me. This is bare min­i­mum decent human behav­ior.

Espe­cial­ly for fem­i­nists who claim to be inter­sec­tion­al when their actions prove, when it comes to inter­sec­tion­al­i­ty, their fem­i­nism is indeed bull­shit.

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Redeeming Love Review Update

July 13, 2016 0 Comments
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Headphone Hipster Illustration

July 6, 2016 0 Comments

I’ve nev­er real­ly paint­ed. I’ve cre­at­ed 5 acrylic paint­ings in my life, all of which were done in col­lege in 2007. I’ve drawn with mark­ers and microns with some suc­cess. But as I’ve grown more inter­est­ed in illus­tra­tion and fash­ion, I’ve been study­ing Jes­si­ca Durrant’s work more and test­ing out how ink and water can work togeth­er.

For my first real for­ay into ink/­fash­ion-ish illus­tra­tion, I’m pret­ty pleased — and real­ly excit­ed about what I may be able to do with some prac­tice.

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