Fat Girl,

As dumpster fires go.

December 31, 2016 0 Comments
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Redeeming Love Review Update

July 13, 2016 0 Comments
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Haikus With Dani: JerkBrain Edition.

June 21, 2016 2 Comments

There’s a lot going on in my life. I’ve deac­ti­vat­ed my Twit­ter for a lit­tle bit. Vul­ner­a­bil­i­ty is ter­ri­fy­ing, but it’s eas­i­er to be vul­ner­a­ble to an amor­phous mass of peo­ple than talk to any­one in par­tic­u­lar about what’s been hap­pen­ing, even the things that are only hap­pen­ing inside my own head. There­fore, you’re get­ting more of my depress­ing frag­ments of dia­logue, this time brought to you by my very own Jerk­Brain.

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The Stories We Tell: Purity Culture and Shame.

April 1, 2016 7 Comments

I had a very eye-open­ing con­ver­sa­tion with my mom recent­ly.

We were talk­ing about my mar­riage to my ex, and she asked me if her hunch was cor­rect that I’d have mar­ried him any­way if my par­ents hadn’t giv­en us per­mis­sion. (You see, in our iter­a­tion of puri­ty cul­ture, even as a 22-year-old adult, I need­ed my par­ents’ per­mis­sion to mar­ry.)

I thought a moment and answered hon­est­ly: yes, I would have still mar­ried him. Then I clar­i­fied, “I hon­est­ly thought I had to.”

You didn’t get that from us!” Mom respond­ed in aston­ished con­fu­sion. “You don’t have to mar­ry some­one just because you slept with them.

Let me state up front: that’s an entire­ly true state­ment. I agree with it 100%.

And yet it was my turn to be shocked.

Because that state­ment flew in the face the entire nar­ra­tive of my first 20+ years of life..

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The Stories We Tell: Purity Culture Edition

February 18, 2016 2 Comments

Puri­ty cul­ture pre­pared me for a world that doesn’t exist. The world that does exist is both so much bet­ter and so much worse than I was led to believe.

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Redeeming Love Review: “Fallen” Angel

July 12, 2015 25 Comments

Overview and analy­sis of chap­ters 1–6. Trig­ger warn­ings for top­ics includ­ing sex traf­fick­ing, child­hood sex­u­al abuse, rape, emo­tion­al abuse, domes­tic vio­lence, and sui­cide.

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Redeeming Love Review: “Fallen” Angel

July 12, 2015 25 Comments

Overview and analy­sis of chap­ters 1–6. Trig­ger warn­ings for top­ics includ­ing sex traf­fick­ing, child­hood sex­u­al abuse, rape, emo­tion­al abuse, domes­tic vio­lence, and sui­cide.

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Redeeming Love Review: God’s Truth

June 21, 2015 9 Comments

Intro­duc­tion to the series, along with an overview and analy­sis of the pro­logue. Trig­ger warn­ings for top­ics includ­ing dis­cus­sion of child­hood sex­u­al abuse and sex traf­fick­ing.

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Redeeming Love Review: God’s Truth

June 21, 2015 9 Comments

Intro­duc­tion to the series, along with an overview and analy­sis of the pro­logue. Trig­ger warn­ings for top­ics includ­ing dis­cus­sion of child­hood sex­u­al abuse and sex traf­fick­ing.

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Of masculinity & abusive breeding grounds.

June 8, 2015 0 Comments
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